Owning My S.H.I.T.: Suffering Hardship Internalizing TraumaJolanda Jones wore shame and fear like a trench coat because of the life she was born into. It permeated every major decision she made. At some point, she decided to accept that most of her hardships and trauma were inflicted through no fault of her own, such as her dad's suicide. And even self inflicted obstacles were capable of being overcome, and were at a minimum, teachable moments. In Owning My S. H. I. T , Jolanda shares her transformation from